Thursday, 1 September 2016

Happiness Vs True Happiness!

Despite the many problems I have in work mainly due to the O&G sector woes, I have never feel so good before in my personal life.

So much so that I start to realize what is the difference between Happiness and True Happiness.

My philosophy is….

Happiness means having strong relationships with your family members and only people extremely close to you.

True Happiness on the other hand means attaining “happiness” and at the same time care and help your neighbors and strangers who are in need of help.

Let me explained briefly here…

Minding other’s business?

Hmm….. this is a phenomenon I had witnessed in many examples and incidents in my life that the TRUE HAPPY people in life is those who actually spend most of their time minding other people’s business most of the time, after they finished with their own business.

For instance my ex-boss only find true happiness and true good health in life only after he started full time helping those in need.

Similarly Bill Gates is minding too much of others people’s business in the charity work he and his wife is doing. Likewise Warren Buffett and Mark Zuckerberg. Elon Musk wanted to make this world greener….. Ghandi hunger strikes for the people of India…LKY fight for the survival of Singaporeans…George Soros started Open Society Foundation…Ray Dalio sharing economic machines for free in the youtube….

The list goes on….

Do we really think all these people only do things to glorify themselves or to only satisfy their personal ego?

It is good to be skeptical. But please before we judge anyone of the above-named that they are selfish egoistic people, please make sure, you did your research on them by reading their books, biography and countless of their videos interviews first for the fairness of them. Otherwise the opinions formed will be only based on your “personal opinions” and not back by anything. Just like fiat currency…..

Help yourself first!

Of course, prior to that, you need to first help yourself. The ignorant who they themselves have plenty of problems, caring too much for others without acquiring peace and knowledge him/herself will only create only more trouble and chaos to others. This I also mentioned in my previous article. Read: Spending too much time in helping others we hardly cared about

Love yourself!

Consider most of the time, the actions you taken is based solely on the benefit of yourself or for your family members only. You are not a bad person, in fact you are very nice and polite and never do anything harmful to others. However you will also never go extra effort to help others except for some trivial matters that is easily completed in a wave of hand.

Treating others to a meal or drinks that does not cost too much money will be very painful to you also. You wanted to do good for your neighbors or strangers, but just that you would never find the time nor the discipline.

But for yourself or for your close family members, you will always go the extra mile. You think you have a happy life and a happy family.

Think again…..and look more profoundly into your life today….


Ok…a little bit of “superstitious or supernatural” Please bears with me, but frankly there is more than meets the eye. It is difficult for me to explain in writing, but I had converse the same message several times to friends or closed ones and they resonated with me.

Maybe think of it as..

I have never come across a person who does so much good in his/her life for others and even strangers, that one day he or she died very unhappily or die with pain-inflicted illness. Perhaps it will only happen when he or her is cursed due to past bad deeds done by the earlier generations.

On the contrary, I have seen many very nice people die young with illness so “unfairly” as you may say. Aside from the concept of not relishing “true happiness” by doing more for others, it can also due to their character. Read below. In fact many sickness are attributes to our character.

Do you know what really is the root cause of one of the number one killing disease, cancer?

If you really think the medical science is so advanced nowadays that give you your full 100% faith, then how come there are so many more terminal diseases today compared to the past!

As someone who had encountered my own experience in the hospital bed suffering the same illness for more than a decade, until I am recovered now, I ask…

Can doctors sometimes really cure you more than you yourself?


  1. Hi Rolf,

    I've heard of that trend of thought before and I somehow agree with it (I used the word "somehow" as, like you said, it's more superstitious/supernatural).

    I've seen people who are in pain because of bearing grudges/unforgiveness etc.....the psychological permeating into the physical body?

    And regarding one's character and work, I think I need to learn to chill :X My loved ones always tell me that I push myself too hard.......even if I'm supposed to relax....

    1. Hi UN,

      I am strong believer in you reap what you sow.

      So those who do good will be good, vice versa. If you know how to do good and don’t do it, then it is as good as doing bad also….

      Hard to explain, but base on my personal experiences and seeing many other people's experiences, I strongly believe it is...and not just superstitious/supernatural.. ☺

      My biggest worry for today's society and generation is that we are slowly becoming too self-centered that everything we do or say is always only for ourselves only.

      Maybe from today onwards, you can try doing good even without others doing good to you and see the effect. Perhaps it is going to be more powerful than what you are pushing hard for today …

  2. Just do good deeds anyway and expect nothing in return :)

    1. Yes indeed! :-)

      But the definition of good deed is important also. It is more abstract than just thinking helping the people with problems is good deed.

      No need to expect anything, goodness will come by itself.

  3. Happiness is to close down the stock market, so there are no winner and loser. The winner win at the expanse of the loser, the winner incur hatred from the loser.This is call immorality. Trying to sell to other what you think is going to become bad is not right.

    1. In fact the world since centuries ago has been transferring wealth from one to another. This is why rich becomes richer is at the expense of the poor.

      So there is no surprise stock market is the same, which we all know from day one! If u win, means someone is going to lose!

      That is the reason why in bible, it shows Jesus overturn tables in a market place of trading when he first seen them....

  4. Hi Rolf, always enjoyed your enlightening posts. This post is something I have been struggling with as well. I work in the banking industry and it is a very dog eat dog world. I have beenbackstabbed many times until I have learnt to guard against others. And have become sceptical, selfish and hostile to some people. To be honest I feel that even if I am nice to these people they will not reciprocate the same way too. So I have no choice but to guard myself against them. Recently I have fallen ill and it is a long term illness. I also think that it is partly due to my inability to let go off work stress, money stress and stock stress.. Now I try to relax more, but still being in this industry it doesn't help. And it is not easy to change industry or down size my salary Coz I feel that I am still young and can earn more......but still I am good to people who I think are good or people whom are good to me..


    1. I am deeply saddened by your illness due to the burdens of money and today's system that most of us are trapped.

      I sincerely hope that you will be able to recover in due course.

      And being able to relax more and have a peace of mind is the powerful way to cure illness. Finding more enjoyable activities outside work should help. Or go hunting for food u love to eat... More importantly developing a stronger relationships with people around you cared deeply.

      Always be reminded that Health comes first before everything!

      I will write an article on this topic of accumulated stress in today's dog bite dog world!

      May you be blessed!

      Extracted from the bible:

      “Let love be without hypocrisy. Hate what is evil. Cleave to what is good.

      Be devoted to one another with brotherly love; prefer one another in honor, do not be lazy in diligence, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord, rejoice in hope,

      be patient in suffering, persevere in prayer, contribute to the needs of the saints, practice hospitality.

      Bless those who persecute you; bless, and do not curse.

      Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

      Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.

      Do not pretend to be wiser than you are. Repay no one evil for evil. Commend what is honest in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as it depends on you, live peaceably with all men.

      Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to God’s wrath, for it is written: “Vengeance is Mine. I will repay,” says the Lord. Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
      Romans‬ ‭12:9-21‬ ‭MEV‬‬

  5. Hi Anonymous,

    Written a post relating to the topic of dog eat dog environment.

    Thanks for the inspiration and I wish that all your illnesses will flee readily and abundance befall on u thereafter.

    below my post :

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