Sunday, 31 July 2016

6 sentences that you’ll never hear from a successful Singaporean - Rolf's comments!

Below, extracted from an article I read somewhere in Facebook. I added some of my own thoughts too in blue. 


"Being successful is a very subjective term: is it one who is driving a Mercedes and not smiling, or one who is smiling and having bread daily? We don’t want to be a judge for that, but one simple fact is that one can be deemed successful if he can drive a Mercedes and smile daily.

(Rolf's thoughts: Why cannot BMW or other more luxurious car. Ok...I know it is just a metaphor from the author. Nevertheless, I do not think that driving a Mercedes and smiling daily is necessary successful leh! The material part on the surface really mean quite little for truly successful one who most likely already went through the part of extreme luxuries and later enlighten that the material part is no longer as important to choose a simple life again. Smiling daily is definitely great!)

And yes, there are people out there just like that. And they always exhibit the same traits. Always. And since they’re usually quite reserved about their personal life, let’s look at what things those real successful people will never say!"

“I’ve not slept for three days because I’m working very hard!”

Firstly, it’s obviously an exaggeration: no sleep for three days mean you’ve become a zombie now, so whatever work you’ve done are all shitty work. Secondly, a successful person knows that the key element to success is productive rest: yes, a productive five-hour sleep per day for three days is much more effective than, say, “no sleep for three days”.

(Rolf's thoughts: Five-hour sleep even productive can be a little too short. If you need to work that hard over a sustained period of time,  then you are probably not as successful because you lack the wisdom to manage your work life effectively, unless that is what you have chosen! Still, it can be a little pathetic because your life will then have nothing, no family, no friends, no love ones, no alternative hobbies, but just work you love!"

“I’m very, very busy!”

Hell yeah. Busy with what? Facebooking? YouTubing? Let’s face it: we’ll always have too much to do, so it’s all a matter of setting priorities. Everyone is busy with something: when you talk to someone who is successful, he’ll weigh the tasks and prioritise it. He won’t just say, “I’m busy”, because if you think about it, it’s actually an insult.

(Rolf's thoughts: True!)

“It’s not my fault!”

A successful person won’t even care whose fault is it first: when a problem occurs, he’ll analyse it, find solutions and solve it. Then, he’ll see how he can improve. To a successful person, it’s always just one person’s fault: and that’s him. He always takes responsibility for everything that goes wrong.

(Rolf's thoughts: To certain extent true! But there are things beyond our control, therefore sometimes we also do not need to take things so hard that everything that went wrong is our responsibility.)

“Just plain bad luck.”

A successful person starts the day knowing that he’s going to suffer the wrath of bad luck every second, and therefore have already plans on how to work on the solutions. Never once has a successful person depends on luck—after all, he cannot control luck, but he can control himself.

(Rolf's thoughts: Hmmm.... all I can say is luck or randomness does play a part once in awhile but not every time. Requires more events over a longer time to eliminate randomness. Once in awhile lament bad luck is ok just to vent out to feel good thereafter. Indeed successful people have higher probability of getting the things right in their way, because they anticipate better and often see things from a bigger picture and they already consider all factors from the start.)

“Don’t worry, things will eventually turn out well.”

Yeah, like wealthy parents coming to your rescue? A successful person plans, plans and plans. And he just plans for the worst. When the worst occurs, at least there’s a plan for that. An unsuccessful person? Do what’s fun, tell the world he’s smart and good and whatnot, and when the shit hits the fan, he’ll say, well, “just plain bad luck”.

(Rolf's thoughts: Plan, plan, plan = successful! This, grasshopper may disagree outright. Haha. I do agree very much that successful people plan for the worst more than average people. That said, planning for the worst, does not mean that they just fret and fume. Instead they anticipates what is going to happen, make plans and take action, so that they will turn out just fine while most others have shit that hits the fan.)


Surprised? Don’t be. A successful person dares to decline because he knows his limits—he won’t give in to pressure. An unsuccessful person just wants to impress others—and too much “yes” would lead to…”just plain bad luck”.

(Rolf's thoughts: Hehe... this is controversial. Successful people do say yes, but they obviously know how and when to say no better than others. Saying "no" in an appropriate manner without offending is an art also!")



  1. Hi Rolf,

    That is what "brilliant" people won't say?

    If I can have fun at a shot. What "brilliant" people won't do:

    Gossip about others. (Talking and analyzing people do not count, gossip like opimum give u a high for putting people down, or your self down, analyzing strengths and weaknesses are non-emotional)

    Slogan shouting. Some leaders think "culture" is cultivated or created with the mouth. That easy? Insulting who's intelligence?

    1. Hi SI,

      Hehe... hidden message within ur msg?

      Gossip is non-constructive! If it is constructive and can do any help then good, even if the help may not be current n one day he or she look back and realise!

      Word is very powerful as u can see how in US leaders are almost judged on.

      So u say US leaders not brilliant! Hahaha...

  2. Btw, I realised I said 4 out of the 6 hahahahaha

    Super unsuccessful

  3. In TAICHI, we are taught to learn to relax 7 to 11.
    Why ah...?
    Where is the wisdom?
    See whether you can to do it?


    1. Hi temp,

      Ur type of Taichi is too profound. Office Taichi is easier for me... hahaha. Just kidding.

      7am to 11am or 7am to 11pm?

      Please tell us the wisdom behind? :-)

      Rest to walk further?

    2. Ha! Ha!
      i know only the "skin and hair" of Taichi.

      i can only make a guess.

      i think a man who can relax in any
      situations or circumstances (7 to 11) is the most powerful man among us.

  4. Hi Rolf,

    Yes, it's not my fault that I am so busy. I really had no more than 4 hours of continuous sleep each day for the past many months. It's bad luck that my baby will sometimes fall sick but I am not worried, things will eventually be ok.

    Truly, I am not successful haha.

    1. Thanks ah, SI. Not very uplifting leh :P

    2. Hi Jes,

      The sacrifice of a parent! It's love and of course it's not ur fault!

      This is different from work and bear with it, it will be over just soon. U will see the fruits soon. During 1.5-4 years old, this is time where ur life will feel so brightens and warmth. Unforgettable memories.

      I m sure u r a strong mummy, and sure ur gal n u will be just fine!

      My prayers with u n ur kid.

  5. Hi Jes,

    Ha! Ha!
    Even 4 hours of sleep, still must learn to relax 7 to 11.
    How to relax ah...?

    1. Not successful in life still ask me to relax.. hahaha.

    2. Relax the mind? no matter what, the mother cannot be sick if the kid is sick.

      The benevolence of mother!