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How to Create Your Own Happiness
If you wake up in the morning, you have two choices – either Happy or Not for the rest of the day. I choose to be Happy.
Example – Personal Experience of an ex-client from Jakarta
I remembers once when I was in Jakarta meeting an Indonesian client. He travelled more than an hour to and fro office daily. I asked if he will fume at the traffic that is massively jammed almost all time. I was told he is very happy when he is stuck in a traffic jam! “What?” I exclaim. He then said “Happy or Sad also stuck in the jam, I must well be happy!”
Do Not Create Your Unhappiness
In Singapore, if you ask people how’s everything lately. 4 out of 5 will say, life is not so good – family, kids, career etc problems. Unhappiness seems like a common state of mind.
“It is so easy to tell people how things aren’t going well in life or career and how unhappy you are. But why not just say “Things are going well and Life is Good!”
Example – Couple on a Train
Peale recalls an incident where he met a couple on a train. The wife was expensively dressed, furs and diamonds but she complained that the carriage was dingy, service was abominable, food most unpalatable etc. She fretted on everything. Husband on the contrary, was genial, affable and easy going. Peale asked the husband what they do for a living. The husband is a lawyer and says her wife is in manufacturing business. Asked what manufacturing business, he says “UNHAPPINESS! She manufactures her own unhappiness!”
Practice Happy Thinking
Make a mental list of happy thoughts and absorb them. If unhappiness thought should enter your mind, immediately stop, eject it, and substitute immediately with a happiness thought.
Mix with People Who are Happy
Mix with positive friends and leave your negative friends for a while, but do not abandon them. Once you gain all the positivity, then go and help your negative friend.
I Don’t Believe in Defeat
Stand Up to the Obstacle
“Just stand up to the obstacle, that’s all, and don’t give way under it, and it will finally break. You will break it. Something has to break and it won’t be you, it will be the obstacle.” – General Tudor
We can do this provided we have faith, faith in ourselves or faith in a religion etc.
Eliminate Certain Expressions of Thought & Speech
Always use positive over negative words.
E.g. of Negative expressions: “I am worry that I cannot handle. I am afraid I will be late. I will never be able to do this…it’s not as easy as you think”
E.g of Positive expressions: “I can do it! I will get there on time! I will try my best to get it done…!
How to Break the Worry Habit
Worry makes you ill. Fear corrupts our minds, our hearts, brains! The effect will be spread to your cells, tissues and organs of body. Always keep calm and do not worry.
According to Peale, married couples and church members live longer life than normal people. This is because their worries are shared. When you are single, you have to do it all alone by yourself.
Power to Solve Personal Problems
Most people who encounter problems always think they are most unfortunate and others are luckier than them. Maybe sometimes, it is not they are luckier. Maybe they have the same problems and difficulties that you have, but it is just that they find the right formula to tackle their difficulties.
Always talk to people about problems. Find people who encounter the same problems and who had solved them successfully and learn from them.
- Believe that for every problem, there will be a solution
- Always keep calm and relax so that our brain can be more efficient under stress
- Do not try to force an answer!
- List all facts on paper so that problems become more objective, not subjective.
- Trust in our own intuition
Healing – Faith, Stay Calm and Relax
Peale believes that the basic trouble of many sick people is spiritual (body, mind and soul). He believes sometimes medicine may only be temporary relief. Cure is the understanding of our own emotional selves. Natural law is governed by science and spiritual law is applicable by faith.
Therefore, work hard but in the absence of worry, resentment and tension. Stay calm and have faith of overcoming obstacles always. Rest is important too.
Be Likable? – All About Relationships
By overwhelming results, a poll in school reveals that majority of students voted to be popular. This urge is the same in older people but in another form. The longing to be liked, to be held in esteem, to be sought-after person is fundamental in us.
“One of the deepest drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated.” – Psychologist William James.
Always be comfortable person to people. Easy-going and natural. Pleasant, kindly and genial way. Do not be stiff, reserved, and unresponsive, that never amalgamate into the group.
“To be master of art of popularity, be ARTLESS. Strive deliberately after popularity and the chances are you will never attain it.”
Prescriptions for Headache
In USA so many people cannot sleep without sleeping pills and so many cases of headache. Muscular activities utilize another part of the brain and therefore cure the strain and give reliefs.
“The best medicine for a broken heart is to take a scrubby brush and set down on your knees and get to work or to get an axe and chop wood until physically tired.”
A good cry helps sometimes. Get back to normal course of life quickly. Gain knowledge about philosophy of life and death
Rolf’s Final Thoughts
Are You feeling Positive Now? Reading is good, but not good enough. You need to practise.
So now, go and practise it.
But like CW8888 says, do not practise too much positivity on stock markets and on your wallet. LOL.