I was having coffee with an ex-business competitor. We known each other for years. He started his own company few years ago with the help of several investors (influential ones!).
"Running your own company is very tough and you can never know what I went through" - he lamented repeatedly, seemingly wanted me to acknowledge, which I did. I further consoled him that’s why he is the Boss and I am just a 打工仔 (salaried employee)!
He further complained that he should have stay on as a salaried staff, having good life, no stress, lots of time and money like me! Duh! Not true especially on the money part.
Envy or Soured Sarcasm? Not sure, but sense that his business is not as lucrative and as glamorous that it may seem.
He went on to say “But I never regret leaving a salaried job to start my own company.” Duh, Contradictions!
Was further told that he aims to quickly earn his millions and lead a relax life “like me!”. Then he can relax and be carefree each day, “LIKE YOU!” - he emphasized again. Was wondering to myself “me relax and carefree? He really knows me well? Maybe not such a bad thing afterall for me to be so good life!”
I smiled and explained that “Different Strokes For Different Folks!” - SMOL I borrowed your phase!
Stay Happy I told him. Then again, he replied “I am very Happy Wor!”
In a competitive society like Singapore, it's so frequent that people compare success in terms of material or career. I always think that, ”人比人气死人!" It means “When you compare against peers, you only anger yourself more.”
Who has a better life. Employee or Employer? I am not so concern.
What I am more concern is Living Life with a Purpose! To me, knowing what I want, setting goals and striving towards it, is more important. It is about the heartfelt gratification receive when you reach the finishing line.
Compete against yourself and not others. Undoubtedly, I think its more meaningful “winning” over yourself than "win" against your peers and tells him (or hint) that you are more superior.
Obstacles, stress, and financial challenges are part and parcel during the journey. Our mindset need to be right from DAY ONE when we start the journey.